Speaking Out on Gay Parenting and Writing at Lambda LitFest

Loved being on the panel “Our Families, Our Stories: Writing and Parenting in the Trenches” at 2019 Lambda LitFest and reading there the opening of my book Dispositions. From a lesbian Mom with a child from a short-lived straight marriage, to a pioneering, single HIV-positive Dad, to two gay Moms raising their kids, each with her own, unique path, to our story, we presented a wide range of moving parenting experiences.

To me, the last 15 years have also been an experience of being both in and outside the traditional parenting narrative. What sets gay male parenting apart is that it is a 100% intentional endeavor. We have fought an uphill fight, and have come a long way. In 2019, our right to parent is a reality, but any way you look at it, parenting remains of little interest to many within our community. And it’s fine because it’s how it should be: intentional, not a slip-up, a by-product, or a means to end. LambdaLitFest1 9-27-19 (Final)

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Lambda LitFest Writing/Parenting Panel

Please come to our panel “Our Families, Our Stories: Writing and Parenting in the Trenches” at Lambda Literary Festival. Here’s the panel description:

For those LGBTQ writers who are parents, the realities of parenthood intersects at every level of the professional author experience. Queer parents are often intentional in creating their families and in how they position their identities as writers, from craft to publication and marketing. Markedly so when you define yourself as other than a traditional “parent” and know how much words matter.
This interdisciplinary program features diverse authors who have published in multiple genres in magazines and books. The queer parenting experience is historically underrepresented and is now a rising area of focus in literary publishing.
Panelists will talk about how they both write about and interrogate some of the assumptions of parenting today.
Readings (fiction/memoir/poetry), followed by discussion.

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Interview in LA Collegian Wired

In April, Los Angeles Collegian – the student newspaper of Los Angeles City College – interviewed me about the UCLA / Medical Humanities project for their Facebook / YouTube newscast called Collegian Wired – East Hollywood News. I participated in the development of this new major at UCLA in October 2018-March 2019 as an Andrew W. Mellon Fellow with the UCLA Excellence in Pedagogy and Innovative Classrooms (EPIC) Program. The broadcast went live May 17 and is about 10 minutes long. Since my UCLA segment does not appear until about 5 minutes into it, I am posting here the video segment itself which Collegian Wired has excerpted for me.

 

Reading “Saviors or Vultures?” at AWP 2019 in Portland

On the closing night of the conference, I read my new short story “Saviors or Vultures?” based on a chapter from my memoir Dispositions, at a reading organized by the AWP College Writing Caucus at Café Marino Adriatico in the Division district.

Such a warm, receptive crowd, and a joy to hear other writers read the work, including Maria Brandt, Beth Mayer, and Marianne Taylor.

A perfect way to cap off a writing conference.

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AWP19 Book Fair: Enormous and Exhilarating

It took me almost 2 days to get through the AWP 2019 bookfair. It is enormous, but then everything about this conference is enormous: 15,000 attendees ant-crawling through the convention center, 30 concurrent talk tracks, the enormous lines, and the ensuing networking and camaraderie.

Among my bookfair finds is a collection of Tel Aviv noir; gemlike essays on obscure figures from the Age of Enlightenment written by a shy Midwestern poet I heard earlier that day; a volume of Californian eco-poetry, which includes my friend Caryn Davidson; latest issues of the famed Virginia Quarterly Review (#VQR), all but given away to lighten the publisher’s suitcase. (And now weighing down mine.)

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Every Child Deserves a Family website… with our photo

Every Child Deserves a Family campaign website launched earlier this week supports the efforts to “win and conserve protections” for gay families nationwide. I am simply delighted to have our family photo featured on it. (Click and scroll down to the “LGBTQ Families” section.) We’ve been proudly supporting ECDF, in particular, the work of Family Equality Council, which is leading it.

PS. In this 2007 photo, the kids are 1 and 3.

 

Poets & Writers’ Los Angeles Literary Fall Roundtable

Glad to have participated in the November 2018 Poets & Writers’ Los Angeles Literary Roundtable, organized by the Poets & Writers magazine. What a great gathering! I enjoyed the Poetry.LA presentation and their noir poetry series with Suzanne Lummis, and talked about The Citadel unveiling. Two roundtable participants, it turns out, have published in The Citadel years ago. A special shoutout to my friend Carla Sameth (also in the photo), whose LGBT parenting memoir One Day on the Gold Line is coming out in July with the Black Rose Press.

“The iPad Wars” Published in The Citadel

Delighted to hear my short story, “The iPad Wars,” read aloud in full by a colleague at the unveiling of the annual issue of The Citadel. After a recent hiatus, our venerable literary journal is back! Published at LACC for more than 50 years, The Citadel features juried fiction and poetry by the writers from LACC, as well as from the surrounding areas (Hollywood, Silverlake, Echo Park). The theme for this issue is what the future holds, and I thought that my story of a father fighting his pre-teen’s conquest of the Internet would illustrate it pretty well – another crossover of parenting experience into memoiristic writing. I am very pleased with its inclusion in the issue.

The kick-off ceremony took place Nov. 14 in front of about 100 students and faculty in the campus Quad. Very festive!

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Please contact me directly for the copies of the short story.